1. Never hit someone else’s child. It does not matter how angry you become or if you discipline your own child in this way, which is in any case becoming a contentious issue. It’s assault and it’s illegal.
  2. Everyone deserves a second chance. If the child did something wrong, ask him not to do it again. Explain that there will be a consequence if it happens again. You must then stick to your guns and punish him if he does not listen.
  3. Stay calm. Don’t shout and say things that you will regret later on.
  4. Never compare the naughty child to your own. “Tom would never do something like that.” The system of discipline in that child’s home might be different to your own.
  5. Try not to be negative. Do not demean the other child.
  6. Set a good example. If the child is not allowed to jump on the couches, they might wonder why you are stretched out on the couch with your feet up. Children must know that there are consistent consequences to bad behavior.
  7. Don’t make empty threats. If the children must be punished, follow through. If you don’t, this child will undermine your authority.
  8. When the child has gone home, explain to your child what his friend did wrong. As your child gets older, he will tell the other child what is allowed and what is not.
  9. Create a loving environment for your own children. When other kids come over they will know what is allowed and what is taboo in your home. Children who are raised with love and respect will hopefully instil the same values in their friends.

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